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The Fraud Who Isn't

Psychology Today

While personality and intelligence may be the seeds of impostorism, it needs a certain type of environment in which to sprout (or, shall we say, fester). Marilyn Puder-York, a clinical psychologist and executive coach, frequently treats high-achieving clients with aspects of IP and sees a common element in their background: parents who placed outsize emphasis on their academic credentials. “They were afraid of not being good enough, of being abandoned in some way by a family who wanted a successful child,” she says. “Their ambition was driven by a desire to avoid shame.”

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How to Remain Productive with Change

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Change is constant.

And change is good, says Marilyn Puder-York, PhD, a psychologist, executive coach, and author of The Office Survival Guide. “In different stages in life, productivity may be defined differently because life gets more complicated, tasks get more strategic in addition to being tactical, roles change, we have more to do, more people to take care of, and things become more complicated,” Puder-York says.

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How to Transition From Work to Life

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You’re an executive or an individual with a demanding job. You don’t have enough time for your personal life. You have way too many e-mails to read, and you think about work when you go home at night.

As an individual with this type of position, how can you possibly free your mind from work, when work never really goes away in today’s technology-driven society? This is an issue, right? The question is: do you want more leisure time?

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I've Got Spirit, Yes I Do!
I've Got Spirit, Yes I Do!

BODY&MORE

Getting ahead doesn't mean shouting your accomplishments through a bullhorn at the next meeting, but it also doesn't mean waiting out the game on the bench. You just have to know the right way to cheer for the home team.

According to Marilyn Puder-York, PhD, a psychologist/executive coach and author of "The Office Survival Guide," (McGraw-Hill, 2005), when it comes to tooting your own horn, there are three things you need to consider: What's your particular office culture? What personality does your boss have? And was the success just yours or did it belong to a group?

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7 Tips to Actually Succeed at Your Digital Detox

Life by Daily Burn

Stop Blaming Your Job

There are some people with high-risk jobs who have to check email at all hours. (Hi, Barack Obama.) But there are many others who don’t need to — and do so anyway. “That’s unhealthy because there’s not a reason for your nervous system to be wired to ‘workaholic,’” says Marilyn Puder-York, Ph.D., a psychologist and executive coach for CEOs and executives in New York City. If you’re responding to emails at 10 p.m. because you decide to, not because your job dictates, take a step back. Tell yourself you can check your inbox — but that you’re not going to respond unless it’s something really important.

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6 Tips For Better Work-Life Balance
6 Tips For Better Work-Life Balance

Forbes

A lot of overachievers develop perfectionist tendencies at a young age when demands on their time are limited to school, hobbies and maybe an after-school job. It’s easier to maintain that perfectionist habit as a kid, but as you grow up, life gets more complicated. As you climb the ladder at work and as your family grows, your responsibilities mushroom. Perfectionism becomes out of reach, and if that habit is left unchecked, it can become destructive, says executive coach Marilyn Puder-York, PhD, who wrote The Office Survival Guide.

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AOL Boss Blew it in Public Firing
AOL Boss Blew it in Public Firing

Special to CNN
By Marilyn Puder-York

On Friday, AOL chief Tim Armstrong apparently fired AOL Patch.com Creative Director Abel Lenz during a conference call with some 1,000 employees listening.

The CEO was explaining changes at Patch that would reduce the number of sites in its local news network from 900 to 600. During the call, according to a number of sources, Armstrong told Lenz

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6 Tips for Dealing With a Passive Boss
6 Tips for Dealing With a Passive Boss

U.S. News and World Report

When you're forced to manage the manager. Your boss's behavior has left you trying to figure out how to best approach him or her on a regular basis. "It puts responsibilities on the employee to best manage that particular boss with that particular personality," says Marilyn Puder-York, a licensed psychologist and author of "The Office Survival Guide."

Take personality into consideration. Before raising the issue with your boss, account for his or her personality. A passive boss isn't necessarily a sensitive one. However, he or she may combine both traits. Whatever the combination, tailor your approach accordingly. "You have to act on a strategy that's going to match who this guy or gal is … and then figure out a script," Puder-York says.

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After an Office Gaffe, Several Ways to Say You're Sorry
After an Office Gaffe, Several Ways to Say You're Sorry

The Wall Street Journal.

The apology needs to be direct and the offender should take full responsibility, says Marilyn Puder-York, Ph.D., a psychologist and executive coach.

It should convey: “I recognize what I did was inappropriate, I recognize it had impact I didn’t intend, no one is blaming the universe or a bad night’s sleep,” she says.

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Astronauts like Kelly train to put feelings aside
Astronauts like Kelly train to put feelings aside

Phys Org

Most people compartmentalize all the time on a smaller scale. But some people are naturally better at putting aside their feelings than others, or they learn how to be better at it.

"They are ultimately super-rational and super-logical," said psychologist and executive coach Marilyn Puder-York, of Old Greenwich, Conn. "They access their emotions, but they don't let their emotions control their cognition or their behavior or their choices."

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